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Longer rant about today later because this should be documented but for now...
I AM NOT STRAIGHT!
It really pisses me off when people assume I am. And then I get annoyed when people don't understand WHY that upsets me. I guess I can deal with the assumption because a lot of people assume MOST people are straight unless they conform to a stereotype they have created in their own heads and they see in the media, but to then not understand why I don't like being called 'straight' because it's not 'normal' so I should be glad to be assumed to be normal....
...big fuck you.
I kind of realised that the reason I finally had enough of Heather Doney's shit (she was a girl I knew in high school and she was unkind but we kind of put up with it) when I turned 18 and finally cut off all contact with her, was because of the way she handled her best friend coming out. Heather came to ME sobbing saying that something was wrong with Amber and when I asked if Amber was sick, because my first assumption was cancer, Heather said, "she is sick!" And when I asked what she had, Heather said, "she's bisexual!!" And since I was pretty much struggling with my own sexuality at the time, that was NOT what I needed to hear. As soon as I got away from her (and moved to Uni) I was able to admit it to the people closest to me. She would have made that unbearable.
I'm not sick. I'm not abnormal. I'm just not straight. And if you don't like it, I really don't care anymore.
I AM NOT STRAIGHT!
It really pisses me off when people assume I am. And then I get annoyed when people don't understand WHY that upsets me. I guess I can deal with the assumption because a lot of people assume MOST people are straight unless they conform to a stereotype they have created in their own heads and they see in the media, but to then not understand why I don't like being called 'straight' because it's not 'normal' so I should be glad to be assumed to be normal....
...big fuck you.
I kind of realised that the reason I finally had enough of Heather Doney's shit (she was a girl I knew in high school and she was unkind but we kind of put up with it) when I turned 18 and finally cut off all contact with her, was because of the way she handled her best friend coming out. Heather came to ME sobbing saying that something was wrong with Amber and when I asked if Amber was sick, because my first assumption was cancer, Heather said, "she is sick!" And when I asked what she had, Heather said, "she's bisexual!!" And since I was pretty much struggling with my own sexuality at the time, that was NOT what I needed to hear. As soon as I got away from her (and moved to Uni) I was able to admit it to the people closest to me. She would have made that unbearable.
I'm not sick. I'm not abnormal. I'm just not straight. And if you don't like it, I really don't care anymore.
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And AWW THANK YOU *hugs big time*
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♥
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The other stuff she said was gross too. But that rant is longer. Though I have a feeling you'll have a strong opinion on that shit too. I'll write it on a day when I have less classes!!
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:-)
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Certainly not the doctor tonight. He put "Heterosexual" down on my form without even asking me. I pointed out that that was false and he blushed and asked me to select an option. Damn right. Although having said that, the options were kind of limited. But better than nothing.
Also, in the past couple of years I've decided that I'm really not even completely one of those filthy lesbians. I may indeed have caught a bit of that bisexual flu that's been going around. *shock* *horror*
The whole being assumed to be 'normal' business is just fucking insulting. Gah.
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But are you SERIOUS oh dear God first of all I am unsure why it MATTERS enough to put it on a form, and second of all, why the HELL would you not ask!? Augh.
Hahaha bisexual flu is awesome. I hate that sexuality needs to be defined at all really. People should love who they love. But since it HAS been defined, I'd like to be defined as I am!
It really is.
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And yeah, I'm not one for definitions really. It's all so freaking fluid. I was straight for my early teens, a dyke from 17-25, and a little bit inbetween since. Who the hell knows what I'll be when I'm sixty or how many transformations I'll have gone through in the meantime. As it stands right now, I love my girl. But that isn't necessarily to the exclusion of all others, with full disclosure to all parties. etc etc. (So far, this is all in theory.)
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All in all, love is awesome :D That's what matters.
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:D
i kid. love you lara.
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People who don't get this are naive, badly bought up and quite frankly... stupid. Love is love. Who the gender of the person if is irrelevent.
Be proud of who you are and know that true friends love you for it. Why sink yourself to a level of an idiot. I value my friends because of who they are not their sexual orientation. As for me, I'm just me. I love who I love, Granted it's mainly women so thus if you must I'm Gay but who knows what tomorrow brings?
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It totally is.
Exactly. Who knows what tomorrow brings.
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I always thought this kind of thing would only be a problem in high school, but apparently not. One of my flatmate's friends, upon hearing that she was a lesbian, said: "But you don't look gay!" ...Because that's totally the way it works.
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Wow. WOW. *headdesk*
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<3
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